February 16, 2008 at 6:00 am #281840jaymesMember
Congratulations Andy, DW and DS, you are all very clever, wonderful people! :clap:
Well done “naughty boy” 😉February 16, 2008 at 6:20 am #281841
If your DS sees a tall, red and curly headed young man tell him to say hello…. My DS is starting uni at QUT next week (orientation) and Reggie is taking him and his stuff down to Brissy tomorrow. He will be living near the Lutwyche shopping centre with his cousins. He is doing a double degree… Civil Engineering and Business, though he may change the later to take on a more environmental slant.
Congratulations to yor Son!! :tup:February 19, 2008 at 10:05 am #281842KiewietMember
congratulations! What a wonderful positive outcome for you all. The young gun has got what it takes to make a great success of his life – he is also very lucky to have such a great support team. You can all be proud:clap::clap::clap::clap:February 19, 2008 at 10:37 am #281843MumchookMember
Fantastic news Andy! Brilliant, in fact!
:hug:February 19, 2008 at 1:52 pm #281844bellaMember
Hooray! And congrats to your boy too Chezza!
You guys give me hope! xxApril 22, 2008 at 8:31 am #281845
Well it’s official – DS formally moved out last night. He’s been living with his GF for months now (well almost a year on-and-off). But apparently it wasn’t official b/c he still came home and kept his TV, DVD collection and copy the criminal code (his prize possession – who woulda thought) at our place.
He gave his GF an ultimatum at the weekend “we are s’posed to be engaged, and we will have a 2nd child in June so either we move in together or it’s over for good”. He did allow her til the end of the year to decide.
Well she apparently wasn’t ready for commitment until he pointed out that he has been living with her for about 6 months. So now DS is on the lease and they registered with Centrelink as an official couple.
So we are now officially empty-nesters … which means we will have his company when he’s hungry, broke and wants the washing done :rol: :rol: 😆
Oh yeah – and his GF is likely to need a caeserian b/c the baby is lying the wrong way. Likely to come 2 weeks early. With 14 June as the official due date, that brings grandparenthood on in just 5 weeks (if 2 weeks early).
My middle sister just had a baby 5 weeks ago and has been helping DS learn how to hold newborns and burp them and has been buying him nappies n bottles n stuff. They have always butted heads, but funny how this shared experience is bringing them together.
Hmmm … do we live in the 21st century or what! 29o with a 17yo step-son who’s also a step-father and about to be a real father :shy:April 22, 2008 at 9:10 am #281846
I’m 40 (something :shy: ) with one at uni, one in grade 3 and two others…. Isn’t it funny how the world is soo different from one family to the next…
It’s going to be a big year for you and your family, H-man!! :clap::clap:
:hug:April 22, 2008 at 9:16 am #281847mauziMember
Herbman, just caught up with this thread. Been busy for a bit. Congratulations to you and mrs herbman. Your perseverance and love has been an inspiration. Gee and now no kids at home – must be quiet. Had a laugh about the ‘when he is broke, needs his washing done comment.November 8, 2008 at 5:52 am #281848
Thought I’d update. Hope you don’t mind.
DS and his family are living with us atmos. Their lease ran out at the youth supported accomodation and no-one will rent to two 17 yos with 2 kids. So while they wait for some form of emergency accomodation or housing commission, we are cramped into a tiny 2 bedroom house.
It’s been quite stressful, but over the past 5-6 weeks we’ve worked out some ground rules and changed our lifestyles to try to make it manageable. DW is working weekend shift and I have been doing a LOT of weekend cycling (loving it :tup: ). That gives them some space. Some nights they go out with the kids to give us some space.
I try not to get annoyed when the TV is up too loud and I’m forced to listen to the Pink music marathon for the millionth time (he taped it on IQ and is playing it again right now). He tries not to get angry when I finally ask him to turn it down 😆
The reason I am updating is to share a story about one of the most beautiful things he’s ever done for me.
I am not ashamed to disclose that I’ve been spending time on the psychologist couch and having some emotional issues resolved with a craniosacral therapist. One night I came home from the craniosacral therapist and I had felt a lot of emotions about a particularly horrific incident.
I was really quiet when I came home having cried all the way home on the bus (I took the slow bus so that there wouldn’t be many people to see me). I must have looked a fright. I really needed some human company. DS saw me and asked if I was okay. I asked him for a hug (DW was working night shift). He hugged me without complaining and said “it’ll be okay man”.
I went into our room because I just needed quiet and wanted to curl up and hide. DS came into my room and asked what was wrong – whether something was wrong at work. I said “no mate, I’m just seeing psychologists n stuff and there’s some hurt I need to sort out”. He said, “I understand dude. When I used to go to Dr Steve (the psychiatrist he saw a few years ago) it always made me upset, but then after a while it helped me feel better”.
Then he sat on my bed with me and just kept me company because I was sad. He chatted to me about how Dr Steve helped him and opened up about some things he had been feeling at the time that he’s never shared with us. I felt a lot better after a little bit.
It was such a beautiful thing for him to do. I didn’t tell him what was wrong, because it was not something appropriate to share with him. But since then he’s been really supportive when I come home quiet after an appointment he doesn’t do his usual jump out from behind a door to give me a fright thing (that’s really funny because I jump 😆 ), but instead he gives me a hug and says “how was your day dude”.
His biological father has come onto the scene after being absent since the conception (18 years). He asked me whether I was okay with him getting to know the man. He said he didn’t want to hurt or betray me.
I think he will be a beautiful man – despite everything bad that everyone’s ever said about him.November 8, 2008 at 5:55 am #281849
I should note that I told him that I think it’s a good idea for him to get to know his biological dad and his 4 half-siblings. He calls the man ‘dad’, but I know it’s just because he doesn’t have another word he can use. It’s been good for him to learn about where he comes from … tough for him … but good.November 8, 2008 at 6:02 am #281850
:hug: :hug::hug:November 8, 2008 at 6:07 am #281851MumchookMember
Aw gee…. Big hugs to all of you.
He’ll be alright, Andy.
He’s a handsome young man, too, isn’t he?
ReeNovember 8, 2008 at 6:08 am #281852
Shhh Ree … Don’t tell him that … you know 17yo boys … they all know they are handsome 😆 :rol: 😆November 8, 2008 at 6:22 am #281853Michelle-smMember
WOW 17 with 2 babies!!
I had one at 17(almost 30 years ago!!) so I can only imagine how much work 2 is at that age. I was 20 when #2 arrived and that was still hard work.
I wish them all the good fortune in the world.
And big hugs:hug: to you and DW for being such wonderful supportive GP’s.
I know from experience that having that support at that age is absolutely priceless.:kiss1:
And an extra :hug: for you Andy for offering that support even through all that you are dealing with, you are obviously a very special person.November 8, 2008 at 7:38 am #281854AnjaMember
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