December 21, 2009 at 3:32 am #250878HerbmanMember
I know it may be more appropriate for the general chat forum, but I thought ‘Life Changes’ was not inappropriate for this post either.
I know I’ve said goodbye a few times. This time though, unless by some miracle the way I need to deal with a very private and personal situation changes, I won’t be back.
As you may know, for the past few weeks I’ve been riding my motorbike around NSW and Victoria. I am currently home for Christmas and will be returning to my ride on Sunday. That will see me out bush in Vic, SA, Tassie and NSW for another 4-5 weeks.
I left in search of peace. Something I haven’t experienced in many years. During the past 2 weeks I have discovered that I am loved & cared for by those close to me, and that I am not subhuman. These are very important lessons for me to learn.
Every day has been important. Some new discovery of either nature or myself has occurred. I have experienced blistering heat, icy cold snow, blustery winds and bone chilling rain. I have enjoyed the company of some ALSers who have nurtured me and given me something to laugh about. And some people who have listened to me without judgement and without trying to jump in to give advice. :hug:
I still need more time to learn to maintain the peace I am discovering. But I know that for one particular issue in my life (which is too personal to share), the only way to find relief is to leave ALS.
I want it to be known that no-one has said or done anything to upset me. This is not why I am leaving. It’s just that sometimes its the hardest and most painful decisions that are the ones we need to make to heal.
After 2 weeks on the road, I have returned home a different man to the one who thought he might cycle to Melbourne in summer. Most of the changes have no relevance to this site, so I will not burden you with them.
But two lessons I will share:
1. I need to spend more time ‘doing’ my ALS thing than talking about it; and
2. You guys are awesome. In the midst of difficult times on ALS (we all know what I mean), please remember that at the other end of the computer is a person, a human being who is fallible and has feelings. A person who may express themselves harshly because they are dealing with things in their own real lives; or a person who’s life has put them in a different place than you. Don’t let squabbles and issues get in the way of the beauty of humanity.
ALS has been something very important in my life. Without it I would have no garden, wouldn’t sew and wouldn’t know the first thing about making jam. It’s not just an internet site, but a group of people. I won’t name everyone who’s important, just a few little things that stand out …
Lady B who tirelessly organises swaps – they are about so much more than what you might get, they are a chance to give a little bit of ourselves to a relative stranger.
Chezza who sent me a half-finished bag and instructions for how to finish it so that I could learn my first sewing project for the bag swap.
Mauzi and husband who have twice had me in their home and twice I’ve left feeling as though there was some magic healing going on.
Kaff who has been (and I hope continues to be) an awesome postcard buddy.
Humbug who gave me a place to stay for 3 nights despite my first words on the phone being ‘Hi Jan, I’m f*ing wet and f*ing cold! Can I please sleep on your couch tonight?’. And then proceeded to listen to my yarns until 4am :hug:
Everyone who has ever hosted a GTG or let me stay with them you open your homes to strangers to give us all the opportunity to become friends IRL.
To all those who have my email / phone details – please don’t be a stranger. If you don’t have them and want to keep in touch, please don’t be afraid to PM me.
So, on that note. I have to go and take care of myself. I am not a muslim (not that it matters), but will leave you all with the most beautiful traveling wish that I have ever learned:
If I have hurt or upset you, please forgive me. If you have hurt or upset me, I forgive you. I wish you all a safe journey as I leave to continue mine.December 21, 2009 at 3:44 am #448013ballamaraKeymaster
Herbman, may your God go with you and protect you on yourlifes journey:hug:December 21, 2009 at 3:48 am #448014ChezzaParticipant
LOL… I’d forgotten about that… I’ll see you around… Hopefully one day you’ll come back to als… :tup:December 21, 2009 at 3:58 am #448015roundthebendMember
Will miss you here Andy…………..now go out there and live life to the full:hug:December 21, 2009 at 4:14 am #448016littlelionsmaMember
There is no doubt you will be missed Andy, with your vibrant style and caring kindness to others who needed it. My wish for you is I hope all your saved up wishes come true.
Lots n lotsa :hug:’s
ps. def gonna PM you dude..only just realised you live close to where I used to live :tongue:December 21, 2009 at 4:37 am #448017Michelle-smMember
Goodbye Andy, I am sad to see you go but wish you a wonderful journey through life filled with love and peace.:hug:
I have made a resolution to spend less time on ALS next year and more time doing it too.:tup:December 21, 2009 at 4:43 am #448018VanessaMember
All the best with what the future holds for you Andy.
You will be missed, but you need to do what is right for you.
:hug: :kiss:December 21, 2009 at 4:53 am #448019John and ZoeMember
Wishing you all the best for the future Andy! You will be missed on ALS.
By the way, if you’re still planning to come over to WA next year to tackle the Bibbulmun Track, the offer to stay with us at trails’ end in Albany still stands.:hug:
John & ZoeDecember 21, 2009 at 6:36 am #448020bluezbanditMember
Well, Herbman, you have knocked me over with this news, while you were travelling I missed your contributions to the site, the news of your garden and of course the inspiring garden photos, but hey, it’s not all about me! I hope you will find peace in your journey thoughout life and hopefully we will get to meet up on your Tas leg of your journey, if not, all the best.
DebDecember 21, 2009 at 7:00 am #448021GiannaMember
You’ll be missed Andy. :hug: God Bless as you continue your travels. :hug:December 21, 2009 at 7:27 am #448022libran50Member
I met you at E’s. I hope you are OK.
You seem like a great guy.
I don’t understand! But that’s just me!
GerriDecember 21, 2009 at 8:05 am #448023SpriteMember
Yeah I don’t understand either, having never met you Andy.
I hope you find whatever it is you are looking for.December 21, 2009 at 8:13 am #448024LollyKeymaster
To thine ownself be true… :tup::tup:
All the best to you!! :wave: :kiss:December 21, 2009 at 8:21 am #448025sue eMember
good luck andy whatever path life takes you on. you are a kind, gentle soul and you must see to your own needs. don’t forget though while you are “doing” to take time to enjoy what you have done.:wave::hug:December 21, 2009 at 8:26 am #448026swaggieMember
Good luck Andy!
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